A mix of UK and USA artists with the only thing in common being that all the tracks are over 5 minutes long.
Crosby, Stills & Nash - Suite Judy Blue Eyes
Angie Palmer - Raising Hurricanes
Tom Kitching - Slow Jigs
Tom Waits - Had Me A Girl
Reg Meuross - I Am The House
Cara Dillon - P Stand for Paddy
Kate Bush - The Big Sky (MeTeorogical Mix)
Martin Stephenson - Slaughterman
Gigspanner Big Band - Death and the Lady
https://www.mixcloud.com/cmbertram/otbt-mix-26-july/
Monday, 27 July 2020
Sunday, 26 July 2020
Coping with Abusive Emails
As you may know from previous posts, at times I struggle with my mental health. I have one sibling, an older sister, who at times has been fairly sympathetic but mostly has been short-tempered with me especially when my illness has made it difficult for me to cope with and support our ageing parents' various health issues.
My sister rarely phones me. Email is her preferred communication tool. This makes it easier for her to criticise and belittle me when she feels I am failing in my role (as she sees it) as one of our mother's carers. After a particularly fraught series of incidents earlier this year, my sister went as far as informing me that I was, "no longer fit to be part of mum's care team". That speaks volumes about our relationship - she treats me like I'm a junior employee rather than a family member.
The effect of her emails on me over the years has on occasion seen me reduced to tears and has worsened my anxiety. I have tried drowning my sorrows (never a good idea) and at times it has made me nervous about even looking at my inbox. She does a good line in guilt-tripping too.
But I turned a corner last year with a new therapist who gave me strategies for dealing with these messages. Last night I came up with a new one - treat the email as a submission from a student who has failed to grasp the nature of the question set them. As their tutor, I have to try to encourage them to rewrite it in a more caring and compassionate manner. For obvious reasons I am not going to post my sister's email but you can use your imagination about its content based on my comments below.
Assignment: Write an email to a sibling informing them that one of their parents has developed worrying dental issues during lockdown. Within the last 24 hours the sibling has informed you that they are going for a coronavirus test. This, on top of their ongoing mental health issues, has left them feeling vulnerable and worried.
Feedback to student S’s answer:
You have failed to express any sympathy for your sibling's medical situation. Neither have you taken into account the travel restrictions which have made it difficult, if not impossible, for them to travel to see your mother, let alone accompany her to a dentist appointment.
Starting your email with the line, "This is what happens when you don't take mum to the dentist," is at best unhelpful and will instantly put the recipient on the defensive. And ending it with, "Mum deserves better than this," (meaning your perceived lack of care your sibling shows for said parent) is also an unnecessary comment which shows a complete lack of empathy.
Please try again using this as a guide to help you form a more constructive and supportive message.
1. Start by sympathising about your sibling’s health scare.
2. Remind them of the background to the parent’s dental issues.
3. Update them on the current situation – ref dental surgeries having been closed.
4. Discuss the next steps for parent’s treatment.
5. Ask if they will be able to help once their health has improved.
6. Wish them well and say you will keep them updated.
My sister rarely phones me. Email is her preferred communication tool. This makes it easier for her to criticise and belittle me when she feels I am failing in my role (as she sees it) as one of our mother's carers. After a particularly fraught series of incidents earlier this year, my sister went as far as informing me that I was, "no longer fit to be part of mum's care team". That speaks volumes about our relationship - she treats me like I'm a junior employee rather than a family member.
The effect of her emails on me over the years has on occasion seen me reduced to tears and has worsened my anxiety. I have tried drowning my sorrows (never a good idea) and at times it has made me nervous about even looking at my inbox. She does a good line in guilt-tripping too.
But I turned a corner last year with a new therapist who gave me strategies for dealing with these messages. Last night I came up with a new one - treat the email as a submission from a student who has failed to grasp the nature of the question set them. As their tutor, I have to try to encourage them to rewrite it in a more caring and compassionate manner. For obvious reasons I am not going to post my sister's email but you can use your imagination about its content based on my comments below.
Assignment: Write an email to a sibling informing them that one of their parents has developed worrying dental issues during lockdown. Within the last 24 hours the sibling has informed you that they are going for a coronavirus test. This, on top of their ongoing mental health issues, has left them feeling vulnerable and worried.
Feedback to student S’s answer:
You have failed to express any sympathy for your sibling's medical situation. Neither have you taken into account the travel restrictions which have made it difficult, if not impossible, for them to travel to see your mother, let alone accompany her to a dentist appointment.
Starting your email with the line, "This is what happens when you don't take mum to the dentist," is at best unhelpful and will instantly put the recipient on the defensive. And ending it with, "Mum deserves better than this," (meaning your perceived lack of care your sibling shows for said parent) is also an unnecessary comment which shows a complete lack of empathy.
Please try again using this as a guide to help you form a more constructive and supportive message.
1. Start by sympathising about your sibling’s health scare.
2. Remind them of the background to the parent’s dental issues.
3. Update them on the current situation – ref dental surgeries having been closed.
4. Discuss the next steps for parent’s treatment.
5. Ask if they will be able to help once their health has improved.
6. Wish them well and say you will keep them updated.
I hope this is of help to anyone in a similar situation to me and if you are in Lancashire and want more info on dealing with unwanted emails check out the Lancashire Constabulary website.
Thursday, 16 July 2020
Judy Dyble tribute show
This week's show is my tribute to the singer and founder member of Fairport Convention who died on the 12th of July following a long illness. Although I never met her I, along with I'm sure many others, will have felt they knew her through her involvement with the Fairport message board Talkawhile.
She sent me a couple of lovely messages when I first started presenting my folk music radio show on Diversity FM in 2008. Ironically one of her last postings on Talkawhile was about the death of Stranglers' keyboard player Dave Greenfield, both of them passing at the age of 71.
You can listen to the show on Mixcloud.
Judy Dyble - Neverknowing
Fairport Convention - Chelsea Morning
Giles, Giles & Fripp - Under The Sky
Trader Horne - Down and Out Blues
Judy Dyble - Better Side of Me
Fairport Convention - Both Sides Now (live)
Stephen Stills & Judy Collins - Girl From The North Country
Leonard Cohen - Suzanne
Joni Mitchell - The Last Time I Saw Richard
Richard Thompson - I Ain't Marching Anymore
Fairport Convention - Time Will Show The Wiser (live)
Fairport Convention - One Sure Thing (live)
Judy Dyble - Head Full of Stars
Judy Dyble - Letters
Judy Dyble - Talking With Strangers
She sent me a couple of lovely messages when I first started presenting my folk music radio show on Diversity FM in 2008. Ironically one of her last postings on Talkawhile was about the death of Stranglers' keyboard player Dave Greenfield, both of them passing at the age of 71.
You can listen to the show on Mixcloud.
Judy Dyble - Neverknowing
Fairport Convention - Chelsea Morning
Giles, Giles & Fripp - Under The Sky
Trader Horne - Down and Out Blues
Judy Dyble - Better Side of Me
Fairport Convention - Both Sides Now (live)
Stephen Stills & Judy Collins - Girl From The North Country
Leonard Cohen - Suzanne
Joni Mitchell - The Last Time I Saw Richard
Richard Thompson - I Ain't Marching Anymore
Fairport Convention - Time Will Show The Wiser (live)
Fairport Convention - One Sure Thing (live)
Judy Dyble - Head Full of Stars
Judy Dyble - Letters
Judy Dyble - Talking With Strangers
Saturday, 11 July 2020
Radio show playlist 10 July
Here's the playlist for my show which will be broadcast on Ginger Feather FM every day at 4pm and 9pm for the w/c 13th July. Alternatively you can listen to it on Mixcloud.
The show includes tracks from new releases by Richard Thompson, The John Palmer Acoustic Band and Fabian Holland.
John Renbourn - Blues Runs The Game
Honey and the Bear - The Ferry
Dick Gaughan - Now Westlin Winds
Chloe Foy - Borrow From Tomorrow
Fabian Holland - Flour Bed
Jon Palmer Acoustic Band - Bridges not Walls
Damian Helliwell - Fear of Askaval
Richard Thompson - If I Could Live My Life Again
Fairport Convention - Tale in Hard Time
Davy Graham - She Moved Through The Fair
Steeleye Span - Dark Eyed Sailor
Lorraine McCauley and the Borderlands - Big Love
Jon Palmer Acoustic Band - Great North Road
Listen online to Ginger Feather FM
The show includes tracks from new releases by Richard Thompson, The John Palmer Acoustic Band and Fabian Holland.
John Renbourn - Blues Runs The Game
Honey and the Bear - The Ferry
Dick Gaughan - Now Westlin Winds
Chloe Foy - Borrow From Tomorrow
Fabian Holland - Flour Bed
Jon Palmer Acoustic Band - Bridges not Walls
Damian Helliwell - Fear of Askaval
Richard Thompson - If I Could Live My Life Again
Fairport Convention - Tale in Hard Time
Davy Graham - She Moved Through The Fair
Steeleye Span - Dark Eyed Sailor
Lorraine McCauley and the Borderlands - Big Love
Jon Palmer Acoustic Band - Great North Road
Listen online to Ginger Feather FM
Friday, 3 July 2020
OTBT Blues Show 3 July
I've been revisiting some of my old blues albums along with a couple of recent Robert Cray Band purchases so thought I'd put together a blues show. The first half is mainly acoustic with covers of songs by the likes of Blind Boy Fuller and Robert Johnson and then some electric playing from the likes of Buddy Guy and Fleetwood Mac.
If you're a fan of early 20th century blues, check out Max's Blues Club Online on Facebook though it is a private group so you'll need to apply to join. But fear not, they are a friendly bunch and you can hear live music every Sunday from 5pm.
The show - https://www.mixcloud.com/cmbertram/otbt-blues-show-3-july-2020/ and the playlist -
John Renbourn & Wizz Jones - Hey Hey
Ralph McTell & Wizz Jones - You're Gonna Quit Me Baby
Michael Roach - San Francisco Bay Blues
Sonny Terry & Brownie McGhee - Climbing On Top Of The Hill
Big Bill Broonzy - Glory Of Love
Keb Mo - Kindhearted Woman Blues
Hat Fitz & Cara Robinson - Sister Sister
Michael Chapman - Waiting For A Train
Jimi Hendrix - Hear My Train Comin' (acoustic)
Little Whitt & Big Bo - Walking Blues
Janis Joplin - Little Girl Blue
Blind Boys of Alabama - Motherless Child
Buddy Guy & Junior Wells - Checkin' On My Baby
Eric Bibb - Six O'Clock Blues
The Robert Cray Band - Consequences
Fleetwood Mac - Jigsaw Puzzle Blues
My shows go out daily on Ginger Feather FM at 11am, 5pm and 9pm. This show will be broadcast from Monday 6th July until Sunday 12th.
Check out the Facebook group and follow us on Twitter
If you're a fan of early 20th century blues, check out Max's Blues Club Online on Facebook though it is a private group so you'll need to apply to join. But fear not, they are a friendly bunch and you can hear live music every Sunday from 5pm.
The show - https://www.mixcloud.com/cmbertram/otbt-blues-show-3-july-2020/ and the playlist -
John Renbourn & Wizz Jones - Hey Hey
Ralph McTell & Wizz Jones - You're Gonna Quit Me Baby
Michael Roach - San Francisco Bay Blues
Sonny Terry & Brownie McGhee - Climbing On Top Of The Hill
Big Bill Broonzy - Glory Of Love
Keb Mo - Kindhearted Woman Blues
Hat Fitz & Cara Robinson - Sister Sister
Michael Chapman - Waiting For A Train
Jimi Hendrix - Hear My Train Comin' (acoustic)
Little Whitt & Big Bo - Walking Blues
Janis Joplin - Little Girl Blue
Blind Boys of Alabama - Motherless Child
Buddy Guy & Junior Wells - Checkin' On My Baby
Eric Bibb - Six O'Clock Blues
The Robert Cray Band - Consequences
Fleetwood Mac - Jigsaw Puzzle Blues
My shows go out daily on Ginger Feather FM at 11am, 5pm and 9pm. This show will be broadcast from Monday 6th July until Sunday 12th.
Check out the Facebook group and follow us on Twitter
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